Although tantra is often synonymous with sex and massage, it is really about connection - whether it is with yourself or between you and your partner. In practice, tantra is about enlightenment: transcending the sexual and spiritual planes by engaging in deeply meditative, spontaneous and intimate sex.
Be in tune with your body
Like yoga, tantra is about physical and spiritual awareness. When you learn and practice tantra, you will be more in tune with your body, with what brings it pleasure. This will allow you to pay better attention to your body's desires and needs and ensure that they are met.
In addition, the energies you channel during tantric sex flow through your entire body and can enhance your orgasm.
Tantra is not only focused on achieving a higher state of mind and body awareness. It can also be about creating a deeper, more harmonious bond with your partner. When you practice Tantra, you and your partner learn to be physically aware and spiritually present, and to transmit energy to each other that continues to grow even after sex is over. Tantra also allows you to explore and expand all aspects of your personalities, so you get to know your partner more thoroughly inside and out.
A prepared mind is important
Tantra is a spiritual practice, which means your mind is just as important as your body. When you practice tantra, you are connecting your body, mind and soul. Clear thinking and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone are important to unite these parts of yourself.
Focus on the breath. Spend 15 to 30 minutes breathing gently down into your abdomen and lower back to get in touch with what's going on in your mind - whether it's stress or fulfilling your desires.
Stretch for a few minutes. As you stretch each limb, clear your mind of the negative thoughts that are weighing you down. The more you clear your mind, the lighter it will become and you will be more aware of all the touches.
Concentrate on yourself and your partner
Let the intensity build up. Look into each other's eyes without blinking for as long as possible.
Synchronize your breathing. You can try breathing in and out together, or inhaling as your partner exhales.
Tell your partner what you like. When you touch each other, make it very clear what you like, what your partner should definitely pursue, and listen to your partner anyway.
Set an intention for your practice. Whether it's for better sex or to strengthen your relationship, you and your partner should be clear about why you want to try tantric sex or tantric massage.